We tend to feel embarrassed about our sexual fantasies. One of the reasons you may feel uncomfortable about sharing your kinks is a fear of being rejected because of them or being misunderstood. On the other hand, telling your partner about your sexual desires has all the chances to positively affect your relationship and spice up your sex life.
Below, we will share some helpful tips that should help you do just that, including figuring out why you want to share it, preparing yourself for both positive and negative reactions, eliminating pressure from the conversation, picking the right moment, and remaining empathetic towards your partner and yourself, among other things.
Whether you want to implement some BDSM, sex toys, or sex dolls (for more information on that, visit siliconwives.com), this article will provide you with all the details on how to do it. Read on and have fun!
Figure Out Why You Want to Open Up to Your Partner
It is important to figure out why you want to open up to your partner about your sexual fantasies. If you feel fearful about it, the first thing you can do is look for support from others. You can do several ways, such as joining support groups or seeking professional help from a therapist or psychiatrist. In addition, if you are feeling afraid of being rejected by your partner, you can write down your inner thoughts and feelings in a journal.
Prepare Yourself for Both Positive and Negative Reactions
Once you are ready and feel confident to open up about your sexual fantasies, think about how your partner will react. It is essential to prepare yourself for both positive and negative reactions. Before you start talking, be sure that you already know how to handle both situations.
If you do not know what kind of reaction you are looking for, it will be almost impossible for you to prepare yourself. For instance, if you would like to have a conversation with your partner and ask them about their fantasies, you may want to know how they react to the idea of sharing them. Our point here is that you should always remain calm and avoid being too pushy.
Eliminate Pressure From the Conversation
Another important thing is to eliminate pressure from the conversation. It is easy for both of you to open up about your sexual desires when there is no pressure on the discussion.
Any kind of stress might put both of you in awkward positions, which will make the conversation run more awkward than fun. Remember that it is all right if you decide not to share your dirty dream with your partner. It all depends on how important it is to your satisfaction in the relationship.
Pick the Right Moment
When it comes to talking about sexual fantasies, there is no right or wrong time. However, you should pick a time when both of you are relaxed enough to talk about it without feeling uncomfortable or pressured. Therefore, try to avoid talking about your sexual desires when you are tired or hungry; it will not help the situation. Also, if you have decided to bring sex toys into the picture, pick a time when both of you are willing and ready to try out new things in bed. It is a good idea to give some fun and seductive ideas to set the mood and enjoy the moment.
Remain Empathetic Towards Each Other and Yourself
Always remember to remain empathetic towards your partner and yourself. Being empathetic does not mean that you are going to agree with each other’s fantasies. Instead, it means that you listen carefully and respect each other’s points of view. When one of you has clearly stated their fantasies, it is best to hear them out and be respectful instead of making fun or telling them that their kink is ridiculous.
If someone makes fun of your sexual fantasy or makes negative comments about it, it could be hard for you to feel comfortable sharing another one. Remember that being empathetic towards yourself means that you should also respect your thoughts and feelings. For instance, if you do not want any kind of BDSM to play in bed but do not feel embarrassed about telling your partner about it, be sure not to force yourself into doing things that make you uncomfortable and vice versa.
Do Not Lose Your Temper
Another important thing to remember is not to lose your temper. Nothing good can come out of shouting or arguing about it. Remember that being open to sharing your sexual desires does not make you less of a human being. You are not “weird” or “strange.” Having kins is completely natural, and sharing your thoughts and feelings with your partner is a sign of maturity in the relationship.
Prepare Yourself for Having to Explain Things
When you have finally gathered the courage to open up about your sexual desire to your partner, they might want to know more about it. This is a good thing because it can help the two of you further explore each other’s thoughts and feelings. However, you should prepare yourself for having to explain things in a simple way. Remember that if you share something that seems too complicated or difficult to understand, your partner may not take your feelings seriously.
Sharing sexual fantasies with your partner can be a great way to spice up your sex life. However, you should always remember that you have the right to do whatever makes you feel comfortable and happy, even if it does not include talking about your dirty dreams with your partner or trying out new sex toys in bed.
It all depends on how crucial your fantasy is to you being satisfied with your sex life. If you cannot enjoy sex, it might hurt your entire relationship. Remember that being honest is the best policy. Also, even if your partner does not want to engage in your kinks, the chances are you will find a middle ground that will make you both happy.
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